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Even the briefest infidelity can inflict major damage to you, your loved one, and your relationship. Healing is possible, especially with the help of couples therapy, but prevention is far preferable.

Yet many couples are reluctant to talk about infidelity for fear that even mentioning the term might invite this dreaded phenomenon into their world. Talking together about cheating risk factors can significantly bolster your immunity to infidelity and provide answers as to why people cheat in their relationships.

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Here are the 8 big risk factors that cause a partner to cheat, according to psychology:

1. Being naĂŻve

You interact with a person of the opposite gender, you’re unaware of what to do to protect yourself from an inadvertent affair, and you unintentionally slide into too involved of a connection.

When feelings begin emerging, you think “I can handle this,” but the feelings become increasingly intense, weakening your ability for willpower or good judgment to hold sway, something called decision fatigue, according to the New York Times.

2. Being in a situation where you spend time with someone together in a private space

Privacy allows for secret time and interactions. Suddenly, feelings flower into action. You were talking alone together and did not foresee that you were heading down a road that would lead to an intimate encounter.  You underestimate the addictive potency of new romance, and bad leads to worse.

3. Being in an emotional affair already

It can feel flattering when someone wants to talk with you about his or her problems. Beware. Suddenly, intimate actions don’t feel like infidelity. They just feel like a logical and appropriate next step in an already too emotionally intimate relationship.

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4. Being reconnected to an old flame

Or a business colleague with whom there has been a close working relationship, or an attractive person encountered during a trip away from home, most often for business purposes. 

Interacting with flirtatious individuals also increases the risk that you will suddenly become a victim of the fun. Flirtation may look harmless, and those titillating feelings may feel delightful. The difficulty is that the distance between delight (and then dismay) at having dishonored your marital vows can be far shorter than you think, and there’s no clear “Danger Ahead” sign when you are going too far.

5. Being in a situation that includes alcohol

Alcohol clouds judgment and increases intimate impulses, research from the American Addiction Center tells us. Time alone together in private places and discussions of personal issues such as marriage problems further increase the risk of an adulterous outcome.

6. Being in a relationship where you and your partner have become distant

The distance may come from not sharing enough positive and private time, from having too little fun shared activities, insufficient physical connection, old resentments, or even too much commute or travel time by one partner. 

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Whatever the cause, distance breeds weaker connection, making one or both of you more vulnerable to others who would love to move into the too-vacant space of an intimate lover in one of your lives. If your love partnership includes too many unpleasant negative interactions like angry explosions, criticism, or controlling behavior from one or both partners, one or both of you are likely to back off from closeness. The risk of an affair also increases. 

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7. Having a certain type of personality that’s prone to cheating

Narcissists tend to be prime victims of the cheating impulse. They are easily drawn to partners who flatter them by showering with them affection or addressing seductive attention their way.

They also may enjoy showing their prowess at chasing and conquering their prey. And they may be more prone to focus on what feels good to them “at the moment” rather than thinking about the impact their affair would have on their partner.

Folks who live their lives with minimal adherence to a moral code also are at increased risk for cheating. If “the rules don’t apply to me” is their mantra, monogamy is likely to be one of the rules that gets ignored. By contrast, strong religious moorings strengthen resistance to temptations.

Lastly, folks who generally present themselves in a seductive manner may not intend to put themselves on a road to infidelity and yet may be inadvertently giving forth “I’m available” signals that sooner or later get them in trouble. Beware of low necklines and high hemlines.

8. Having parents who cheated

The son of a man who cheated on his wife has a higher risk of doing the same than the son of a man who remained faithful. If a cheating dad cheated repeatedly, normalizing that behavior, the risks rise yet again for the adult son. The same is likely to be true for women, though the data on this phenomenon has been less available.

Be savvy, not naive. Stay clear of situations with any of the above risk factors. Exit early from situations that trigger initial intimate feelings. If you must continue to interact with a high-risk individual or in a high-risk situation, protect yourself.

Limit the time you spend with the at-risk other, and maybe bring a friend or colleague along to keep the dialogue less personal. Meet in public places. Stay clear of talking about personal issues and save the alcohol for enjoying with the same set of friends or at home with your spouse.

And discuss your concerns with the one you love to bolster your resistance. Listen appreciatively if your loved one shares concerns about a potential affair with you. Honesty is generally the best policy. Working as a team to keep your love safe benefits you both.

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Susan Heitler, PhD, is an internationally recognized clinical psychologist, author, and co-founder of Power of Two Marriage, a fun online program that teaches couples the skills for marriage success.



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