150 Fun & Flirty Messages

By: Edwin Mania

In this digital age, we’re all amateur wordsmiths, always planning the perfect post.

So, apply your skills as a litterateur and draft flirty texts that will make him want you. These actionable examples will have him glued to his phone, counting the seconds until he sees you again.

Table of Contents

Innocent Flirty Texts to Make Him Smile

1. I just saw a guy who looks like your doppelgänger. Don’t worry, you’re way cuter. 

2. Guess what I’m daydreaming about right now? Here’s a hint: It involves you.

3. I had a dream about you last night. It was . . . interesting.

4. I just tried on a new outfit. I wish you were here to give me your opinion. 

5. My friends think I smile too much when I text you. I wonder why. 🤔 

6. I’m craving something sweet. Got any ideas?

7. I’m having a lazy day. I wish you were here to share the couch with me.

8. Good morning. I’m having the best day ever. I wish you were here to share it with me.

9. I just saw something that reminded me of you and couldn’t stop smiling.

10. Is it hot in here, or is it just the thought of seeing you later? 🔥

11. Are you always this charming or is it just when I’m around?

12. I’m starting to think hanging out with you might be my new favorite hobby.

13. How is it that you make even the most boring days feel special?

14. If we were in a movie, this would be the part where we realize we’re meant to be.

15. You’ve got a lot of charm — mind if I borrow some?

16. You’ve got a way of making everything feel a little more fun.

17. I might need a little help — how do you always manage to look so good?

18. It’s not my fault if I keep smiling around you. 🤗

19. You make it hard to focus when you keep being so adorable.

20. I’d tell you a secret, but then I’d have to spend more time with you to keep it safe.

These innocent yet flirty texts create a playful, lighthearted tone that can significantly boost attraction.

A study published in the journal Computers in Human Behavior explains, “The use of text messages for flirtatious and humorous communication likely plays a role in maintaining a positive relationship dynamic. This lighter communication style can help diffuse tension and reinforce bonds​​.”^[1] 

The key is to keep it fun and subtle, leaving room for imagination. 

These texts work because they show interest without coming on too strong, creating an enticing push-pull dynamic that keeps him intrigued and wanting more.

Flirty Text Messages to Ignite His Desire Long-Distance 

1. I just got out of the shower and can’t stop thinking about you.

2. If you were here right now, I’d [use your imagination]. 

3. Wearing that lingerie you love. I wish you could see it in person.

4. I miss the way you hold me. I can’t wait to feel your arms around me again. 

5. Close your eyes and imagine my hands on your body. Where do they go first?

6. Every time we talk, it makes me want you more. You have no idea what you do to me. 

7. I’m counting down the days until I can kiss you again. It’s driving me wild.

8. Send me a pic of what you’re wearing. I’ll send one back.

9. I miss your touch so much right now. How would you tease me if you were here? 

10. Let’s have a little fun. Truth or dare? 

11. Craving the gentle strength of your embrace . . . . Hurry back to me.

12. I’m planning a surprise for you. I can’t wait to see your face light up.

13. I’m thinking about our future together and it makes me so excited. Can’t wait for more adventures with you.

14. I can’t stop thinking about the way you look at me when we’re alone.

15. Remembering how you taste . . . . It’s sweetly torturous.

16. The anticipation of our reunion is electrifying every nerve in my body.

17. I can’t stop thinking about the way your touch felt. Missing you more than words can say.

18. Longing to feel your heartbeat quicken under my palm.

19. Missing the way your body fits perfectly against mine.

20. Your absence is making my heart grow fonder . . . and other parts wilder!

Long-distance relationships can be a real buzzkill, but these texts are your secret weapon for keeping the fire burning across the miles. 

They tap into the power of anticipation and fantasy, which can be even hotter than the real deal sometimes, and he’ll be missing you like crazy. In a study published in the Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy, researchers Dargie et al. explored the idea that “technologies that allow couples to interact as though they were face-to-face can help maintain intimacy and sexual satisfaction despite physical separation.”^[2]

These messages get his attention and create a shared erotic space, keeping you connected despite the physical gap. Just remember, consent is important. Make sure you’re both comfortable with this level of spice before hitting send.

And for the love of all that’s holy, double-check you’re not texting your mom by mistake!

Innocent Texts That Will Make Him Want You

1. I just saw the most beautiful sunset and it reminded me of you. 🌅

2. I’m reading a book that has a character just like you. It’s making me miss you even more. 

3. I just heard our song on the radio. It made me smile and think of you. 

4. I’m planning a surprise for you. I can’t wait to see your reaction!

5. I’m having a great day and it’s all because I know you’re in my life. 

6. I can’t stop thinking about how lucky I am to have met you.

7. I grabbed your favorite coffee today. It made me think of our first date.

8. I just wanted to say you make my days brighter. 

9. I’m trying to focus at work, but I keep getting distracted by thoughts of you. 

10. I’m just letting you know you’re on my mind. I hope you’re having a great day! 🥰

You don’t always have to be spicy when you flirt. These innocent texts are like little love bombs — they explode in his brain, leaving him thinking about you all day.

They work because they’re genuine, sweet, and not trying too hard. In the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, authors Debrot et al. found that small, frequent acts of affection significantly increase relationship satisfaction.^[3] 

These texts do exactly that — they’re little digital love notes that keep you on his mind without being clingy. 

Plus, they give him a perfect excuse to text you back and keep the conversation going. He’ll never manage to resist this trail of breadcrumbs straight to your heart.

Flirty Texts to Make Him Blush

1. Just thinking about that smile of yours . . . . It’s making my heart race.

2. Do you even realize how irresistible you are?

3. Your arms looked amazing in that shirt yesterday. I couldn’t stop staring. 

4. You know that thing you do? Yeah, I can’t stop thinking about it. 😏

5. You’re trouble — the kind I can’t get enough of.

6. Stop being so adorable, it’s distracting! 

7. I can’t focus on anything because I keep picturing your face. 😘

8. You have no idea how much I want to kiss you right now.

9. You make me feel things I’ve never felt before.

10. Just a heads-up: You’re dangerously charming. ⚠️😊

11. I can’t decide if I like your smile more or the way you look at me . . . maybe both.

12. You have a way of making me feel all flustered.

13. You’re too good at making me want you.

14. Every time I see you, I have to remind myself to breathe.

15. I get lost in your smile.

16. You look so cute. You’re seriously testing my self-control right now. 😍🤗

17. Just thinking about you makes my heart race.

18. If you were here right now, I’d have a hard time keeping my hands to myself.

19. I’m so attracted to you, it’s almost embarrassing.

20. You’re the reason I’m distracted today . . . in the best way.

A little playful flirting can go a long way toward keeping the spark alive. These texts are designed to make him feel confident and desired. 

By complimenting him and expressing your attraction, you create a sense of excitement and anticipation. Remember, the key is to keep it playful and fun.

Sending these messages not only keeps the spark alive but also reminds him of the chemistry and connection you share.

As Frisby et al. state in Communication Quarterly, “. . . flirtatious communication with a romantic partner can potentially create a private world between the partners and reinforce the status of the relationship.”^[4]

Text Messages to Make Him Obsess Over You

1. Something about you just makes me feel so alive. 

2. You have this way of making everything else seem unimportant.

3. You’re like my favorite song — I just can’t get you out of my head. 🎵

4. I just turned down a night out. I am saving all my energy for our next date.

5. You have no idea how much I’m looking forward to seeing you.

6. I miss you more than I should. When can I see you again?

7. You’ve ruined me for other men. I hope you’re happy with yourself. 😏

8. I just had the best day ever. The only thing missing was you.

9. I find myself smiling whenever I think about you. 🥰

10. I can’t stop thinking about how amazing you are. 

11. Your arms around me is my new happy place.

12. Can’t focus at work. Keep replaying our last date in my head.

13. You’re like a magnet, and I’m completely drawn to you.

14. I’m so addicted to you that going a day without talking to you feels impossible.

15. You and I are like pi — irrational and endless.

16. You’ve got a permanent spot in my heart and my mind.

17. Every moment with you is a memory I never want to forget.

18. The way you make me feel is something I never want to let go of.

19. You’re my favorite distraction.

20. I just saw a couple holding hands and it made me think of you. Miss you so much.

21. You have no idea how much I appreciate you.

22. Your smile is my kryptonite. Use it wisely.

23. I feel like the luckiest person in the world to have you.

24. You’ve set the bar impossibly high. How am I supposed to date anyone else now?.

25. Something about you makes me feel like I can conquer the world.

26. You’ve got me daydreaming at work again . . . not that I’m complaining.

27. Every moment with you is a memory I never want to forget.

28. I can’t help but smile whenever I see your name pop up on my phone.

29. I just had a dream about you. It was so real, I woke up smiling. 😌

30. Your texts are the highlight of my day — just imagine what seeing you does to me.

These texts are designed to burrow into his brain like a catchy pop song you can’t stop humming.

They work by triggering what psychologists call “intermittent reinforcement,” a fancy way of saying they keep him guessing and coming back for more.^[5] You’re giving him just enough to stay interested, but not so much that he loses the thrill of the chase. 

It’s like dangling a string in front of a cat — he can’t help but pounce.

But as Uncle Ben said to Peter Parker, “With great power comes great responsibility.” Use these texts wisely or you might find yourself with a stage-five clinger on your hands. And nobody wants that.

Silly and Flirty Texts to Make Him Laugh

1. Are you made of copper and tellurium? Because you’re Cu-Te.

2. Why did the melons get married? Because they “cantaloupe.”

3. I was going to send you something sexy, but the mailman told me to get out of the mailbox.

4. What did the pickle say to his girlfriend? “You mean a great dill to me.”

5. If you were a pizza, you’d be my supreme. 😉

6. Why did the pencil ask the paper out? Because it thought it was the perfect match. Just like us!

7. I’m currently in a serious relationship with my bed. But you’re a close second.

8. I hope you like breakfast because I love you a waffle lot.

9. Is your name Starbucks? Because I like you a latte.

10. What did one wall say to the other wall? “I’ll meet you at the corner, I think I’ve fallen for you.”

11. If you were a vegetable, you’d be a cute-cumber. I’d be a tomato, because I go red whenever I see you!🍅🥒

12. Are you a beaver? Because daaaaam!

13. Why did the banana go to the doctor? Because it wasn’t peeling well. But you always make me feel better?

14. Why did the calculator go on a date with the pencil? Because it knew it could always count on it.

15. I’m not saying I’m Batman, but I am saying no one has ever seen me and Batman in the same room. Also, Alfred says hi!

16. Are you religious? Because you’re the answer to all my prayers. Also, where’s the nearest confessional? 🙏

17. Are you a tower? Because Eiffel for you.

18. Why did the computer go to therapy? Because it had too many relationships to process, but I only need you.

19. I’m not a photographer, but I can picture us together. Preferably somewhere with an open bar.

20. You must be a thief, because you stole my heart. 

21. If kisses were snowflakes, I’d send you a blizzard.

22. Is your name Chapstick? Because you’re da balm.

23. Can I follow you home? My parents always told me to follow my dreams.

24. Is your body from McDonald’s? Because I’m lovin’ it!

25. I’m watching a rom-com and pretending you’re the leading man. Don’t let me down!

26. Do you have a map? I keep getting lost in your eyes. Send help. And snacks.

27. Why did the painting go to jail? Because it was framed. But I’m framed by your love.

28. Do you like science? Because I’ve got my ion you. 🧪

29. I’m on a seafood diet. I see food and I eat it. Wanna be my main course?

30. I know I’m kind of a hopeless ramen-tic, but just wanted to say I love you — like, pho real.

Laughter is like relationship glue — it sticks you together and fills in the cracks. Research published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology reveals that “humor can significantly enhance emotional intimacy and overall relationship satisfaction.”^[6]

By sending these lighthearted and amusing messages, you’re not only keeping the conversation engaging but also reminding him of the fun and playful connection you share.

Just remember, timing is everything in comedy — and texting. Maybe don’t drop that cute-cumber line when he’s giving a big presentation at work. Unless you want him giggling in front of his boss, in which case, go for it. No judgment here.

Text Messages He Will Love to Read

1. Your confidence is so sexy. It’s one of my favorite things about you. 

2. You’re so smart and intelligent. I’m always learning something new from you.

3. I’m so proud of you for [achievements]. You deserve all the success. 🙌🏆

4. Your sense of humor is the best. You always know how to make me laugh.

5. I feel so safe and protected around you. You’re my rock. ❤️

6. Your smile is contagious. It always brightens my day. 

7. I love how passionate you get when you talk about [his interest]. 

8. Thanks for always listening. You’re amazing at giving advice.

9. I’m so proud of how hard you’ve been working lately. 👏

10. I really appreciate everything you do for me. Thank you. 

11. You have a way of making everyone around you feel good. It’s amazing.

12. Your support means the world to me.

13. You’re exactly the kind of person I want to be around.

14. The way you pursue your goals inspires me to be better.

15. You have such great taste. I always trust your opinion on things.

16. I appreciate how you always make time for me, no matter how busy you are.

17. I admire how kind you are to others. It’s one of your best qualities.

18. You have a way of making me feel so loved. Thank you for being you.

19. You’re the kind of person who makes the world a better place.

20. Your sense of style is impeccable. You always look great.

Men crave validation just as much as women do, if not more so, even if they act all tough and nonchalant. These messages are like Miracle-Gro for his ego.

They work because they’re specific, genuine, and hit right at the heart of what makes him feel valued. It’s like verbal foreplay for his self-esteem. When you boost his confidence, you’re also cranking up his attraction to you. It’s a win-win situation. 

Just make sure you mean what you say, because authenticity is key. Fake flattery is like nonalcoholic beer — what’s even the point?

Conclusion

At the end of the day, your phone is just a tool. A powerful one, sure, but it’s not magic. These texts aren’t some Jedi mind trick to make him fall head over heels. They’re more like a nudge in the right direction.

Remember to keep it light and fun; you’re not writing a novel here. Be genuine. If it doesn’t sound like you, don’t send it. Also, respect boundaries. If he’s not reciprocating, take the hint. Lastly, mix it up. Don’t just copy-paste these examples — use them as inspiration.

But the real secret to texts that will make him want you is to be yourself. Yeah, I know, it sounds cheesy, but it’s true. The right guy will want you for you, not for your texting game. 

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FAQs

How do you make him crave for you through text?

You make him crave for you through text by being a little mysterious. Don’t always be available. Send flirty texts that hint at fun times together. Leave him wanting more.

What should you text him to make him think of you?

To make him think of you, engage him in conversation. Share something that reminds you of him. Ask his opinion on something. Mention a fun memory you both share. Send a cute selfie with a casual message.

What do I text a guy to get his interest?

To get a guy’s interest, text him asking about his hobbies or interests. Share something funny or interesting from your day. Invite him to do something you both enjoy. Be yourself and show your personality.

References

1. Scissors, L. E., & Gergle, D. (2013, February 23–27). Back and forth, back and forth: Channel switching in romantic couple conflict [Conference presentation]. Conference on Computer Supported Cooperative Work, San Antonio, TX. 

2. Dargie, E., Blair, K. L., Goldfinger, C., & Pukall, C. F. (2015). Go long! Predictors of positive relationship outcomes in long-distance dating relationships. Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy, 41(2), 181–202. https://doi.org/10.1080/0092623X.2013.864367

3. Debrot, A., Meuwly, N., Muise, A., Impett, E. A., & Schoebi, D. (2017). More than just sex: Affection mediates the association between sexual activity and well-being. Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, 43(3), 287–299. https://doi.org/10.1177/0146167216684124

4. Frisby, B. N., & Booth-Butterfield, M. (2012). The “how” and “why” of flirtatious communication between marital partners. Communication Quarterly, 60(4), 465–480. https://doi.org/10.1080/01463373.2012.704568

5. Kamenetz, A. (2017, May 16). Psychologists know that intermittent reinforcement is by far the hardest kind of conditioning to extinguish. Medium. https://medium.com/@anya1anya/psychologists-know-that-intermittent-reinforcement-is-by-far-the-hardest-kind-of-conditioning-to-29f3076b0c81

6. Gable, S. L., Reis, H. T., Impett, E. A., & Asher, E. R. (2018). What do you do when things go right? The intrapersonal and interpersonal benefits of sharing positive events. In Relationships, Well-Being and Behaviour (pp. 144–182). Routledge.